Thursday, April 14, 2016

To Love With Absolute Freedom

To Love With Absolute Freedom - BeautyMindSpirit.com
This is a very special post to me, because it is something that I have been personally figuring out as of late. I have come to a place in my life where I refuse to accept some of the sacrifices we are taught to believe we need to make in order for love to be in our lives. I no longer subscribe to the idea that we have to be less of ourselves in order to make someone else happier. I no longer subscribe to the idea that my own personal validation needs to come from someone other than myself. My lovers will not be my salvations. They will not be my be all and end all. They will be my counterparts, my partners in building experiences with me, so much that, our individualistic human experiences are that much more fulfilled, honored, and experienced too.
 
 What does it mean to currently love someone? Here are some socially accepted thought pattern themes:
Two become one.
In order to be happy, I must be in love with someone.
When I have love, I must contain it and never let it go.
When I am with you, you complete me.
You are mine.
I am jealous and therefore insecure, prove to me that I am worth loving.
You are my property.
If I am not happy with a decision you want to make, you must not do it.
Do not spend more time with your friends than you do with me.
If you do spend time with your friends, let me come with.
Let's do everything together.
I will not survive without you.
I don't know who I am without you.
Life is meaningless without you in it.
Not only do these thoughts nurture a sense of codependency, they tell us that we are not whole people on our own, and that we can't be happy on our own. It teaches us to possess each other and to only feel happy when we are validated by another person. It keeps us contained in a box. It tells us that we need to sacrifice ourselves to the point that we forget to nurture and honor who we are as individuals. It tells us to forget who we are and to be absorbed by our partners.
What if we didn't have to do that?

What if we decided we could love and support someone's own individual journey while supporting our own? What would it look like to love as one whole person to another?
Check out my video to learn more and please comment/leave your thoughts on this topic if you feel compelled to do so. If you live in absolute freedom with love - please let me know what that is like for you. I would love to hear your stories.
 
Check out Jason Silva's video Love is a Religious Problem:
https://youtu.be/9sXomdv_5P8

Shots of Awe:
https://www.youtube.com/user/ShotsOfAwe

Here is one of my favorite articles about Amelia Earhart on Marriage:
https://www.brainpickings.org/2012/12/11/amelia-earhart-on-marriage/
 

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